1. …reprioritized our schedule to place our marriage before ministry. P16.

……我们重新调整了日程安排，把婚姻置于事工之上。 P16

2. Marriage is your loudest gospel message. P96.

婚姻是你最响亮的福音信息。P96

3. ‘If…. Aya (your wife) does not feel loved by you, we will fire you’. P235.

“如果……Aya（你的妻子）不能感受到你的爱，我们会解雇你。” P235

4. In fact, quantifying ministry impact with number is actually biblical. … When it comes to the church and numbers, the problem isn’t that we count, it’s that we have so fully embraced the world’s dictum that bigger is better that number have become the ONLY thing we count. P37.

事实上，把成功量化的做法，其实是符合圣经的……涉及教会和数字时，问题不在于我们计算数字，而是我们完全接受了世界的观念——“越大越好”，以至于数字量化成了我们唯一考量标准。P37.

5. You cannot change what you are unaware of. However, once we acknowledge our shadow – both its root cause and expressions – her power over us is diminished, if not broken. P65

你无法改变自己没有意识到的事情。然而，一旦我们承认自己的阴影——无论是其根源还是表现形式——它对我们的影响就会减弱，甚至被打破。P65

6. Feeling confident that she has begun her day with God, she doesn’t think much more about him during the day unless there is a crisis or problem. In fact, all her waking thoughts are about work since the needs around her are never-ending. P124. (Bad example).

她确信自己已经以神开始了一天，因此在一天中不再多想神——除非遇到危机或问题。事实上，她清醒时的所有思绪都围绕着工作，因为周围的需求无穷无尽。（P124; 反面例子）

7. She endeavors to maintain a sense of connection to God throughout the day, listening to him and inviting him into her efforts to build his ministry, not her own. P124. (Good example).

她努力在一天中保持与神连接，倾听祂，请祂一起建立祂的事工，而不是她的事工。（P124，正面例子）

8. If you refuse the gift of Sabbath, sooner or later, one way or another, you will find yourself flat on your back – emotionally, physically, and/or spiritually. P172

如果你拒绝接受安息日这份礼物，不管以何种方式，你迟早都会倒下——无论是情感上、身体上，还是灵性上。P172

9. I am careful not to engage in important planning conversations or to make significant decisions when I am emotionally triggered (upset, frustrated, angry, etc). P180.

我避免在情绪激动（如沮丧、挫败、愤怒等）时，做出重大决定。P180

10. We define success as radically doing God’s will. (eg, not making money or grow business size). P190.

我们把成功定义为彻底遵行神的旨意（例如，不是赚钱或扩大企业规模）P190

11. We encourage people to use the phrase ‘I notice… and I prefer…’ as the formula for making a compliant. P226

我们鼓励大家使用“我注意到……，我希望……”这样的表达方式来提出抱怨。P226

12. I initiate change to do what is best for the ministry rather than waiting until the last possible moment when things are falling apart. P273.

主动推动变革，以求对工作有利，而不是等到一切都崩溃的最后一刻时才采取行动。P273

13. We mistakenly believe that our responsibility as leader is to always keep things going – even if they aren’t working – and to keep our people from experiencing the pain of loss. P274

我们错误地认为，作为领导者，我们的责任是维持运行—苟且偷生—似乎这样才能保护团队。P274

来源：本文选自Peter Scazzero的《培养高EQ的领袖》，由程弟兄阅读并摘录。

Source: These quotes are from The Emotionally Healthy Leader, by Peter Scazzero. Read and quoted by Clark Cheng.